It's been a tough month. My husband's brother, died 2 weeks ago at age 47. He was in the hospital---3 states away---for almost 3 weeks. We made 2 long weekend trips to see him. Then, last week, we went to his memorial service, driving 9 hours, then 4 hours, then 5 hours, then another 9. All to reconnect with family. Important miles to travel. But hard ones.
- We made sure to to take fruit, whole grain crackers, little packages of nuts, a case of water, and V-8 juice cans with us as we traveled. This did make a big difference in making sure both my husband and I had nutritious things to nibble on when we didn't feel like eating a big meal, or needed a little snack. I grabbed water quite frequently between the cups of coffee I was consuming along the road, which helped me keep well hydrated.
- I forgot to take my own pillow with me on the first trip. Between that and having a cup of tea too late in the evening, I didn't sleep very well at all. I made sure to take that pillow on the next two trips! I also took my lumbar pillow for my back and little neck roll pillow to help me with driving comfort.
- I provided the memorial service luncheon (ordering most of it from a local grocery store!) I made sure there were big trays of fresh fruit and veggies available and big pitchers of water for everyone. That was appreciated by a number of people, I noticed.
- I grabbed non-fat, sugar free lattes when I needed a little pick me up, which provided an extra milk for me...only once forgetting to ask for decaf!
- Sleep. I need to learn to stop processing things, relax and sleep. That's really hard for me. It has taken me a full week to recover from each trip out west.
- Breathe. Frequently. Relax. Roll shoulders and stretch...I didn't even think about this!
- Chocolate. Normally, my husband would have just bought one little candy bar and we would share it when we decided to have something chocolate. This time, he came back with 2 when the chocolate decision came. We both just simply ate our own. I was tired enough that I didn't exercise control over a decision to stop when I was full. Next time, one candy bar, split. Eat slowly. Enjoy. Done.
- Exercise. Walk everyday, even if only for 15 minutes.
- Alone time. Go into my own space for 10 minutes or so, just because I need to.